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Siblings without Rivalry

Siblings without Rivalry

When we were growing up we had a 1978 Chevy Impala station wagon. It was pale yellow, huge, had rear wheel drive, and felt like sailing a boat over the road. We – my parents, brother, two sisters, and I – took many family road […]

Awareness Revisited

Awareness Revisited

Nigel had been saving up for a new video camera and was finally ready to buy it. Every week he sets aside money so he can buy Amazon gift cards, and then he can order items online that way, since he doesn’t have a debit […]

The Most Important Things I’ve Learned

The Most Important Things I’ve Learned

  There was the typical amount of squabbling in any big-sister/little-brother relationship. Most of the time we were close; occasionally somebody did something to somebody else and somebody else threatened to tell on somebody. At one point, around ages 5 and 7, an egregious deed […]

Random Bipolar Musings, Part 1

Random Bipolar Musings, Part 1

I figured it would be a good project – asking those closest to me how it was and is for them having a wife/mom/daughter/sister/friend with bipolar. What’s challenging? What’s strange? Anything interesting? Anything good? Or not really? The project – a series of blog posts […]

Why We Must Presume Competence

Why We Must Presume Competence

My son Nigel has long referred to his autism as his “difference.” If someone he knows is nice to him, he’ll say, “She understands my difference.” * Earlier this year I accompanied Nigel to his annual Individual Service Plan meeting with his service coordinator. We’ve […]

Lessons Learned on a Cruise

Lessons Learned on a Cruise

Pace yourself with the food and alcohol intake. Seriously. The pillows are actually very comfortable. There are some really funny cruise ship comedians! Don’t pay to have internet access. You will gain a new perspective on your life. I just got back from my first […]

The Journey: My Deepest Regret

The Journey: My Deepest Regret

“I always felt like I was the older brother.” “I knew I couldn’t count on you.” “You met my physical needs but that was it.” These are things I’ve heard over the past few months from my younger son, the one who doesn’t have a […]

Things I Learned from Divorce

Things I Learned from Divorce

Seventeen years ago this month, my divorce was finalized. I think more than anything else that’s happened in my life, all these years later, being divorced makes me feel like a failure. (The only thing that comes close is losing my house, which happened four […]

The Call You Can No Longer Make

The Call You Can No Longer Make

I was six years old. A long-time friend of my father’s was visiting from the East coast, and we were returning from taking him out to dinner. It was late, and I had been dozing in the car on the way home. I woke up […]

What We Can’t Say About Autism

What We Can’t Say About Autism

It used to be, eight years ago, parent bloggers could write – without experiencing any backlash – about the challenges of raising an autistic child. Soon, though, we were chastised for saying “autistic” – we were told to say “with autism.” We had to use […]