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The Autism Parent’s Journey

The Autism Parent’s Journey

If I had to condense my 15 years of being an autism parent into one word, it would be “changed.”  I have irrevocably evolved. I have experienced more than I ever bargained for when I entered the general parenting realm, and more than I anticipated. […]

Between Grief and High Delight

Between Grief and High Delight

“I can’t be running back and forth forever between grief and high delight.” – J.D. Salinger, Franny and Zooey I’ve been doing an overhaul of TeenAutism.com, which has been in existence for five years as of this month. Cleaning up broken links, installing a new […]

This Moment Made Possible by Bob Marley

This Moment Made Possible by Bob Marley

Sometimes, echolalia was a gift. At age four, Nigel didn’t have his own spontaneous speech, but he could occasionally parrot back phrases he deemed important. Once in a while when I said, “I love you,” he would say, “I yuh vooo” right afterward. And I […]

Grief, the Holidays, and Posthumous Love

Grief, the Holidays, and Posthumous Love

My dad in 2009 with his 3rd grandchild (my nephew) About four years ago, I was on the phone with my dad and he enthusiastically suggested that he come up for Christmas.  As he lived 700 miles away, he would have flown and then stayed […]

The Value of Going with the Flow

The Value of Going with the Flow

I didn’t learn to swim until I was 9 or 10. I’m not sure what the reasoning was behind that, especially since, growing up in southern California, I was surrounded by beaches and pools. But it might have been even before I learned to swim […]

At the Threshold

At the Threshold

Tomorrow, Nigel and I are going to tour a local supported living facility that is a potential home for him in seven months. Now that he’s 18 and approved for adult services, he’s eligible. How did we get to this point? * There is a […]

It’s Okay Now

It’s Okay Now

I was leaving for work the other morning, walking to my car parked in the driveway, when I heard something that instantly got my attention. It was coming from the bus stop for the middle school kids, and it sounded like an argument or fight. […]

The Life in a Number

The Life in a Number

at a castle in Hungary with my sister, Anastasia, and our dad, 2007 * I was filling out a medical form today, doing the family history section, and for the first time since his death almost four months ago, I had to fill in the […]

What My Father Taught Me

What My Father Taught Me

Last year on Father’s Day, I wrote a post at Hopeful Parents celebrating my father’s life. Little did I know that a year later I would be writing here about his death. How do you say goodbye to a parent? Such a post takes a […]