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Grief & Cancer

The Call You Can No Longer Make

The Call You Can No Longer Make

I was six years old. A long-time friend of my father’s was visiting from the East coast, and we were returning from taking him out to dinner. It was late, and I had been dozing in the car on the way home. I woke up […]

Cancer Is Just a Word

Cancer Is Just a Word

Cancer’s just a word until you witness it ravage someone you love. And if you are with that person, that loved one, when they take their last breath, it changes you forever. Sometimes in ways you wouldn’t expect. * Four years ago this month my […]

A Different Kind of Being Right

A Different Kind of Being Right

When I was in the middle of my college years in Oregon, I decided to change majors and move 700 miles back to southern California. My dad was still employed by the City of Los Angeles doing administrative work, so I lived with him and […]

5 Questions for a Grief and Abuse Survivor

5 Questions for a Grief and Abuse Survivor

So much about life is about perspective, and that is just one of the many things I learned while reading Laura McHale Holland’s enlightening memoir, Reversible Skirt. In it, Holland writes from her child-self perspective as she tells the story of growing up in the […]

The Cell War Notebooks

The Cell War Notebooks

It’s not a good statistic. 41% of us will be diagnosed with cancer at some point in our lives. Of course, it’s necessary to be familiar with risk factors to know where you really stand. But that’s a sobering thought for anyone, and especially those […]

Grief, the Holidays, and Posthumous Love

Grief, the Holidays, and Posthumous Love

My dad in 2009 with his 3rd grandchild (my nephew) About four years ago, I was on the phone with my dad and he enthusiastically suggested that he come up for Christmas.  As he lived 700 miles away, he would have flown and then stayed […]

The Life in a Number

The Life in a Number

at a castle in Hungary with my sister, Anastasia, and our dad, 2007 * I was filling out a medical form today, doing the family history section, and for the first time since his death almost four months ago, I had to fill in the […]

What My Father Taught Me

What My Father Taught Me

Last year on Father’s Day, I wrote a post at Hopeful Parents celebrating my father’s life. Little did I know that a year later I would be writing here about his death. How do you say goodbye to a parent? Such a post takes a […]